Refleksi
Ada beberapa hal yang dapat dipelajari dari permainan ini. Yang pertama, peserta diajak bersikap peka dan mampu mengambil teladan dari sifat baik segala hal yang ada di sekitar mereka, bahkan dari seekor hewan sekalipun. Yang kedua, menyadari bahwa dalam segala hal itu pasti ada sifat baik dan buruknya....dalam arti di dunia ini tidak ada satu hal pun yang bersifat sempurna. Sifat yang baik dikembangan dalam kehidupan kerja, sementara sifat buruk dijadikan ajang introspeksi diri dan dicoba untuk diminimalisir. Yang ketiga, melatih mereka tidak gampang grogi sekaligus emosi apalagi marah jika ada yang tak suka dengan kepribadian kita

Langkah Permainan

1. Beri ilustrasi bahwa setiap benda yang ada di dunia ini dapat dijadikan inspirasi bagi kehidupan kerja kita. Sebagai misal, kita tampilkan sifat sebatang lilin yang mampu menerangi alam sekitar sementara dirinya harus rela terbakar habis.....

2. Selanjutnya tampilkan beberapa macam hewan sebagai pilihan (lihat gambar). Upayakan pilih hewan yang biasa dilihat peserta serta hindari hewan yang pastinya akan menjadi favorit semua orang (misalnya semut dan lebah). Mintalah peserta untuk merenung selama 3 menit dan menuliskan dalam bloknote
mereka seekor hewan yang dapat menginspirasi mereka dalam bekerja

3. Setelah semua peserta memilih, mintalah mereka berdiri sambil membawa bloknote mereka diatas serta keluar dari lingkungan tempat duduk mereka masing-masing. Selanjutnya, mintalah para peserta membentuk kelompok dengan cara menemukan peserta lain yang telah menuliskan hewan kesayangan yang sama.

4. Mintalah mereka duduk berkelompok sesuai dengan hewan kesayangan yang sama. Jangan lupa beri semangat bagi mereka yang terpaksa hanya mempunyai kelompok dengan anggota yang sedikit, misalnya tiga orang, dua orang atau bahkan satu orang

5. Kemudian, mintalah masing-masing kelompok itu mendiskusikan sifat-sifat baik hewan kesayangannya masing-masing. Dari masing-masing sifat baik tersebut, cobalah hubungkan dengan kehidupan kerja mereka sebagai seorang PNS. Sebagai misal jika hewan tersebut memiliki sifat gesit maka sebagai PNS kita harus gesit sekaligus cekatan dalam bekerja alias tidak suka menunda-nunda pekerjaan....

6. Setelah sekitar 30 menit, mintalah masing-masing kelompok mempresentasikan hasil diskusi mereka. Saat presentasi, mintalah seluruh peserta ikut berdiri di depan dengan alasan demi kekompakan tim sekaligus membantu jika presenternya lupa atau kurang lengkap dalam memaparan hasil diskusinya

7. Saat suatu kelompok sedang memaparkan sifat baik seekor hewan maka dengan menggunakan media power point tampilkan sifat buruk hewan tersebut. Kalo bisa beri gambar-gambar menarik dari sifat hewan tersebut seperti contoh-contoh

Yang Bikin Menarik

Dari pengalaman saya selama ini, belajar spirit dari sifat hewan merupakan ice breaking yang menarik, lucu, sekaligus menginspirasi peserta dengan sifat-sifat yang baik. Hal yang menarik antara lain:

1. Saat melihat bingungnya peserta yang mendapati kenyataan bahwa anggota kelompoknya hanya sedikit atau bahkan hanya satu orang dirinya sendiri. Tetapi karena tidak boleh ganti serta telah kadung ditulis maka merekaharus terpaksa menerimanya dengan terpaksa (biasanya peserta meloby untuk bergabung dengan yang lain....tapi kita akan memberi semangat agar berani tampil beda....)

2. Saat melihat groginya peserta karena saat dia mempresentasikan sesuatu yang baik .....eeee..... yang tampil di layar malah sifat-sifat yang jelek, hingga kadang akan muncul komentar-komentar lucu, seperti : ”Yang di layar itu khan pendapatnya Pak Lutfi....”

Sifat Para Binatang

Berikut kami tampilkan beberapa sifat buruk dari para binatang.

1. Jerapah : melambangkan orang yang suka memandang rendah pada orang lain dan pada program secara keseluruhan

2. Merak : melambangkan orang yang selalu pamer dan berlomba cari perhatian

3. Singa : melambangkan orang yang segera ngotot, bahkan kalau perlu berkelahi, kapan saja ada yang tidak setuju dengan rencananya, atau kalau ada yang mencampuri urusannya

4. Harimau : melukiskan tokoh yang kuat dan serakah, mau menang sendiri serta jauh dari sifat bijaksana

5. Monyet : melambangkan orang yang orang yang suka main-main, terlalu banyak ngobrol dan selalu mengganggu konsentrasi kelompok dalam menghadapi persoalan serius

6. Kura-kura : melambangkan orang yang suka mengucilkan dirinya, menolak untuk memberikan idenya atau pendapatnya

7. Kelinci : melambangkan orang yang segera ngacir bila menghadapi ketegangan, atau menghadapi pekerjaan yang menjemukan

8. Bunglon : melambangkan orang yang merubah warnanya sesuai dengan orang yang dihadapi. Dia bicara lain disini, lain disana…..

9. Ular : melambangkan orang licik yang sembunyi dibalik semak-semak dan menyerang dengan tanpa diduga-duga

10. Kuda nil : melambangan orang yang ngantuk melulu, tidak pernah mengangkat kepalanya kecuali untuk menguap

11. Kuda : melambangkan orang yang susah diatur atau suka melanggar aturan

12. Keledai : melambangkan orang yang keras kepala, tidak mau merubah sudut pandangnya

13. Burung hantu : melambangkan orang yang sangat serius dan menganggap dirinya bijaksana, selalu bicara dengan kalimat panjang dan ruwet

14. Elang : melambangkan orang yang jika ada kesempatan si elang akan merebutnya dengan segala cara tanpa mau mengindahkan usaha orang lain

15. Beruang : orang yang selalu menggerutu, mengomel tanpa alasan yang jelas

16. Ayam : mencerminkan sifat egoisme dari seseorang, kerisauan akan eksistensi orang lain dan ambisius. Dalam segala hal, aku harus duluan….

17. Gajah : melambangkan orang yang suka menghambat jalan dan bersikeras mencegah kelompok untuk meneruskan perjalanan dalam mencapai tujuan yang diinginkan

18. Kucing : melambangkan orang yang suka mencari simpati

19. Ikan : melambangkan orang yang duduk tenang dengan pandangan yang dingin, tak bereaksi terhadap siapapun, pada apapun

20. Katak : melambangkan orang yang suka ngoceh terus tentang hal yang sama dengan suara yang mononton

21. Merpati : orang yang terlalu mendewa-dewakan romantisme tanpa mau berpijak pada realitas kehidupan yang kadang pahit

22. Kupu-kupu : melambangkan orang yang percaya bahwa dengan kecantikan dan keindahan fisiknya dia akan mampu menaklukkan dunia…..Padahal sebenarnya dia hanyalah makhluk kecil yang lemah…..

23. Tikus : melambangkan orang yang sangat malu untuk bicara dalam soal apa saja………

24. Sapi : melambangkan orang yang pemalas, bodoh dan suka makan

25. Kambing : simbol kecerobohan. Suka protes walau belum jelas permasalahannya. Sukanya main tabrak tanpa meneliti terlebih dahulu benar salahnya

]]> http://anasarmiento.wordpress.com/?p=78 Fri, 08 Aug 2008 08:51:55 +0000 ana_banana http://anasarmiento.wordpress.com/?p=78

What so special about this day, the date today 08.08.08 di ba nakakatuwa minsan lng dadating ang petsang ito sa kalendaryo ang susunod siguradong di na tyo nag eexist sa mundo. Favorite ko kase ang number 8 kaya di ko palalampasin ang araw na to na di man lng makapag post ng makabuluhang entry. Ito rin ang Birthday month ko, ng hubby ko, ng mama ko, ng pamangkin ko, ng friend ko o di ba ang dami namin.

Swerte daw ang araw na ito, ayon sa aking pananaliksik......

For Chinese the number 8 is considered lucky just like the number 7 is considered lucky in the West. Therefore, it should come as no surprise that the Olympic games in China start on August 8, 2008 or 08/08/08. In China you have to pay extra to have the number 8 in your phone number or license plate. In addition, home and business owners like to have the number 8 in their address.

So, why is the number 8 considered lucky in the minds of Chinese people. The main reason has to do with the pronunciation of the word for the number 8 in China. It is pronounced "ba" and sounds like the word for prosperity which is pronounced "fa". Another reason why the number 8 could be considered lucky is because it is a perfect symmetrical shape. You can cut the number 8 in half vertically or horizontally, and both halves mirror themselves perfectly. Perfect symmetry lends itself to perfect balance. In Chinese Astrology, perfect balance is considered the ideal.

On the date 08/08/08 there is predicted to be a record number of weddings, even surpassing the number of weddings on 07/07/07. According to Chinese Astrology, the date 08/08/08 is in the year of the Rat, the month of the Monkey and the day of the Dragon. It just so happens that the Rat, Monkey and Dragon are in the same affinity group or trine. That means the three Chinese Zodiac animal signs are perfectly compatible with each other. Therefore, the date 08/08/08 will be especially lucky for Rats, Monkeys and Dragons.

I consider it lucky na rin kase tumapat na Friday, weekends dito sa UAE and syempre kausap ko family ko ngayon my hubby and my daughter after nito laba, linis ng bahay then we're planning to watch movie Mummy III.

-kalas-

Before we delve into today's post topic, check out this awesome blazer I got while date-shopping yesterday. It was seven dollars at the discount store! While it's not really something I'd wear on a date, I couldn't pass it up.

Speaking of things not appropriate for first dates, I was thinking about my date tonight and what's appropriate first date conversation. It seems as though almost everything is taboo to talk about these days; there's always an off chance you're going to offend someone, and we don't want that happening on the very first date. First impressions are the most important aspect of the dating realm; the way you look, introduce yourself, the manner in which you relate, your manners, and the conversation you hold are all pieces of the puzzle which will either lead to another date or halt the process at the very beginning. Look at the classic case of bad first impressions: Elizabeth Bennet and Darcy (of Pride and Prejudice fame; it's a whole novel about bad first impressions!). Because he snubs her and is actually quite cold to her, at their first meeting, she weaves a whole idea in her head that that's what he's really like. Their first impressions of each other are totally off; because Darcy was cold to Lizzy, Lizzy was cold right back to him and thus they had this tension-fueled relationship until Darcy proclaims his love for her. My point? Be mindful of first impressions and especially first date conversations.

So, what's a modern day Elizabeth B. to talk about on a first date?

I've googled this a lot, as well as talked to a lot of friends about it (I'm into this early morning sociological research via instant message thing lately, eh?), and came to some conclusions. I'm not really nervous about conversation flowing tonight because we know a lot of people in common, ran in the same educational fields, etc. But, there's definitely topics that are taboo on dates, and things which can easily be brought up and discussed.

Things to NOT discuss on a date:

1. Health Issues: The other person doesn't need to know about your diverticulitis, or your appendix coming out, or the history of diabetes in your family. Keep those things to yourself, and only yourself.
2. Politics: The only caveat for this one is if you both hate the same person.
3. Religion: Talking about religion seems to be long-winded, and usually exhausting for people. Save it for another time.
4. Money: Talking about money on a date is not just classless, but boring! Who wants to talk about the green stuff, when there's so much more you could talk about to stimulate an intellectual conversation?
5. S-E-X: Don't do it on the first date, and don't talk about it on the first date. Awkward.
6. Exes: You don't want to hear about their exes, and guess what, they don't want to hear, nor do they care to hear what your exes are up to now. If you're talking about exes on the first date, it's time to rethink the idea that you're over your ex and ready to date.
7. Pet Peeves: There's nothing sexier than a woman or man saying " I hate that," or "I hate this." Really positive and happy, love it.
8. Marriage: I'm going to say it simply and listen well to me on this one. There's no reason that anyone should be talking about marriage, babies, baby names, houses, or the like on a FIRST DATE. I heard someone say, the only "we" you should be talking about is the "Wii." True story.

So, now that I've told you what NOT to talk about, what's a gal left to discuss?

1. Travel: Where you've been, where you want to go, where you don't want to go are all great topics and ice breaking points for the first date. It gives some insight into who you are, where you want to be, and where your interests in life lie.
2. Pets: People love talking about their pets; what pets did you have growing up, what pets do you want, or have now. It's a great way to get people talking about something they are compassionate for and passionate about, without it being too marriage-family talk. Unless you're like me and only like goldfish, which may mean I'm heartless, but I really do love goldfish.
3. Movies: Movies are a great topic of conversation because it can go on and on for a long time. Discuss what you've seen, what they've seen, what you want to see, top favorite movies. It also can give you some look into whether he/she is a person about the horror, comedy, romantic, old movie, etc. (This goes for talking about music too, another great topic--concerts, favorite CDs, etc).
4. Books: Books are a great topic to talk about...if the other person reads. I've been on dates where the guy said "I'm not into reading." Well, I'm personally not into men who aren't into reading. So, perhaps asking what they last read is a good idea for the first date because it gives insight into the person's stance on books. Personally, I love everything about books and reading; to me, being with someone who reads is important, but not to everyone, of course. That's cool too.
5. Sports: Ehhh, I was hesitant to put sports on this list simply because I don't know anything about sports and I find them boring. But, having a guy teach you about sports is a great way for him to open up and feel strong and powerful. And, if you're not like me and can actually discuss the fact that 1-love is not from soccer, but from tennis, than props to you and this is a great first date topic.
6. College: People loooove talking about their schools. Unless, they hated them. In which case they loooove to talk about how they hated them. Ask about their college, why they chose it, what they liked about it, what interesting classes they took. It's a good way to get to hear snippets of one's past.
7. Brothers&Sisters: I already know my date's brother because he sort of had a hand in setting us up, but normally, I love asking about siblings. It lets me know the person's feelings about their family, or family in general, and if they're anything like me, and totally and utterly proud of their siblings, they enjoy talking about them (granted, if they hate their siblings, this is a no-no topic of conversation, but you wouldn't necessarily know that unless you ask first).
8. Food: Is a great thing to talk about because if you're on a dinner date, you're eating it, too! Favorite foods, interesting foods, restaurants you've been too, are all fantastic ice-breaking topics of conversation.

I hoped that gave you some insight into good topics of conversation, I know it certainly helped me get a little less nervous about tonight. Still don't have anything to wear. Damnit.

What have you talked about on first dates? What do you think people shouldn't talk about on first dates?

I have several regular patrons who know about my love of jewelry (and Coach handbags) and who always make a point of stopping to talk to me, especially if she's wearing a new piece. I've also been able to find other people who share my interest in jewelry-making at the library. It's wonderful how I can manage to combine my two big interests - jewelry and books.

(amazonite, smoky quartz & freshwater pearl bracelet)

Metode ini, gak tahu udah ada yang pernah makek atau belum, saya temukan saat awal-awal mengajar ”Team Building” yakni di Kabupaten Rembang (lupa tepatnya kapan). Yang jelas idenya sih datang saat sedang Jum’atan (walah ketauan kalo Jum’atan gak dengerin kutbah tapi malah ngelamun). Maklum baru pertama ngajar mata diklat itu. Apalagi ini pesertanya ada yang psikolog (Mbak Ratih dari BKD), yang katanya Pak Nursalam (Kasi Diklat Rembang) orangnya pinter dan berpengalaman.....hingga bikin aku agak grogi juga sekaligus merasa tertantang buat ’ngerjain’ dia he...he....he.....hingga lagi, bikin aku bersemangat buat nyiptain jurus membagi kelompok selain yang 1,2,3....itu. Inti dari metode ”Pilih Sendiri” ini adalah memilih anggota kelompok berdasarkan tingkat kepopuleran seseorang di dalam sebuah kelas. Orang yang populer di kelas pasti menjadi rebutan buat diilih oleh teman-temannya....sedangkan bagi orang yang tak populer akan lama terpilihnya oleh temen-temennya....alias duduk paling belakang......

Langkah-Langkah Metode ”Pilih Sendiri”

1. Mintalah semua orang peserta untuk berdiri dan keluar dari lingkungan tempat duduknya masing-masing.....boleh di bagian belakang atau bagian samping.....asal mudah dilihat oleh calon pemimpin nantinya......

2. Pilihlah sebanyak 6-8 orang sebagai pimpinan kelompok. Disini pimpinan bisa dipilih oleh fasilitator berdasarkan orang yang paling aktif di kelas.....walau akhir-akhir ini hal itu saya modifikasi dengan memilih peserta yang sedang hamil atau sedang sakit....agar mereka bisa cepat segera duduk....

3. Aturlah tempat duduk para pimpinan itu sedemikian rupa hingga menyebar di ruangan. Upayakan di sekitar calon pemimpin tersebut ada sejumlah kursi yang pas dengan calon anggota kelompok. Hal ini penting agar saat mereka mempunyai anggota, secara otomatis ruangan kelas tersebut telah terbagi menjadi kelompok-kelompok kecil...alias ga banyak mindahin bangku lagi.....

4. Mulai dari pimpinan ke-1 (misal : Mr. A) mintalah mereka memilih satu orang anggota kelompok. Jika sudah memilih, coba tanyailah alasan mengapa mereka memilih si X sebagai anggota kelompoknya....Sekaligus tanya perasaan si Mr. X akibat dipilih oleh Mr. A tadi.....senangkah, puaskah, atau malah merasa bangga......

5. Kemudian, berturut-turut mintalah pimpinan ke-2 (misal : Mr. B) buat melakukan hal serupa....lalu diikuti dengan Mr. C, D, E., F, dan G. Untuk memilih anggota yang kedua sebaiknya dipilih mulai dari G, E......A agar ada pemerataan kesempatan. Sedang yang berikut urutannya kembali dari A,B.....G....dst.....Jangan lupa setiap kali seorang pimpinan memilih anggotanya tanyakan alasan pemilihan tersebut....beserta perasaan si terpilih jika diperlukan....utamanya jika alasan si pimpinan itu unik atau tidak jelas......

6. Ulangi kegiatan tersebut sampai seluruh peserta di ruangan terpilih atau telah memiliki kelompok. Jangan lupa tanyai perasaan mereka yang terpilih pada akhir-akhir acara.....sedih, mangkel, dendam, atau merasa pantas karena selama ini memang merasa terlalu pendiam dalam kelas.....

Refleksi

Ada beberapa refleksi dari sistem pemilihan ini. Yang pertama, kita mengajarkan pada peserta beratnya seorang pimpinan dalam mengambil keputusan....dalam arti sebagai pimpinan itu tidak selamanya enak-enakan....ada kalanya dia harus memutuskan segala sesuatunya seorang diri. Yang kedua, jika pimpinan itu telah memiliki satu atau dua anggota maka mereka dapat diajak kerjasama buat memilih anggota yang lain dalam arti bisa diajak urun rembug dalam memecahkan sebuah persoalan.Walau dalam hal ini, keputusan terakhir tetap ditangan pimpinan. Yang ketiga, sebagai anggota sebuah kelompok Anda dituntut selalu aktif berpartisipasi dalam kegiatan kelompok. Anda akan populer jika Anda aktif berpartisipasi dalam kelompok. Yang keempat, ada beberapa sebab mengapa seseorang itu tidak populer dalam sebuah kelompok. Mungkin dia terlalu pendiam, alias tidak aktif dalam sebuah kegiatan kelas. Tetapi disisi lain, kadang seorang yang terlalu aktif atau mendominasi kelas kadang juga bikin sebel orang lain hingga bisa jadi dia tidak populer juga. Yang kelima, mengajak peserta buat introspeksi diri terhadap perilaku mereka dalam sebuah kelompok. Jika mereka termasuk person yang lama terpilih, mintalah mereka buat mecari tahu sebabnya serta berupaya memperbaikinya di kemudian hari.....hubungkan juga kondisi tersebut dengan peran mereka serta dampak terhadap karir mereka di organisasi kerja.....

Yang Bikin Menarik

Dari pengalaman saya selama ini, cara membagi kelompok seperti ini sangat menarik dan dapat dijadian sebagai ice breaker juga....karena cukup menghibur dan lumayan memakan waktu pula. Hal yang menarik antara lain:

1. Saat melihat begitu bingungnya pemimpin (karena hanya sendirian) saat pertama kali harus memilih anggota kelompok....bahkan sangking bingungnya ada pengalaman dia malah memberikan kesempatan pada orang lain....sesuatu yang kemudian akan sangat disesalinya.....

2. Saat melihat reaksi suatu kelompok saat sudah menentukan pilihan, tiba-tiba diambil orang lain yang mendapat giliran lebih dahulu....hingga yang berikutnya akan membikin dia hati-hati dalam memilih....(disini saya aan menambah tekanan dengan berkata ”mangkanya kalo milih betul-betul dipikir....soalnya kalo gak cepet Anda pilih maka si dia akan dipilih orang laen....”)

3. Saat melihat alasan dalam memilih seorang anggota.....yang kadang lucu-lucu juga, seperti : karena temen satu kamar, karena orangnya ganteng atau cantik, temen satu kantor, tetangga, karena lucu....alias tidak selalu orang yang pinter..... (bagi yang terpilih akan tak poyoki....”sorry Anda dipilih bukan karena bagus.....cuman karena teman sekamar saja....” atau jika ada seseorang yang terpilih karena berkualitas Anda bisa memberi pujian....”Jika Anda berkualitas, Anda tak perlu berdiri lama-lama....” atau ”Anda harus bangga.....walaupun dia tak tahu nama, tapi tetap memilih Anda....”)

4. Saat melihat reaksi orang yang merasa aktivis di kelas tapi gak dipilih-pilih....hingga wajahnya terlihat malu....minimal tersenyum kecut.....apalagi kalo dia ketua kelas......seorang yang meras pintar.....atau seorang dokter......(tentu saja dalam hal ini saya dengan senang hati ikut nggarapi juga, misalnya dengan mengatakan ”Anda harus lebih introspeksi diri mengapa gak juga terpilih.....mungkin Anda kurang aktif di kelas....atau malah terlalu dominan hingga bikin sebel....”)

Ada dua keuntungan pokok jika suasana kelas menjadi akrab dan menyegarkan, yaitu : 1) peserta akan merasa senang mengikuti kegiatan, sehingga tidak merasa bosan dan lelah; 2) Tujuan diklat akan lebih mudah tercapai secara optimal karena para pesertanya terlibat secara aktif tanpa harus dipaksa. Menurut the Encyclopedia of Ice Breaker terbitan University Associates Inc (1976) bentuk ice breaker ada bermacam-macam, mulai dari sekedar teka-teki, cerita-cerita lucu atau humor ringan yang memancing senyum, lagu-lagu atau nyanyian yang disertai gerakan tubuh (action song), sampai permainan-permainan berkelompok yang cukup menguras tenaga atau bahkan fikiran. Acara perkenalan di awal pelatihan adalah salah satu waktu terbaik dan merupakan saat yang paling tepat untuk melakukan ‘ice breaker’ dalam rangka menciptakan suasan pelatihan yang terbuka, spontan dan jujur, tetap serius tetapi santai. Walaupun demikian, saya pribadi menganggap kegiatan ice breaker juga perlu dilakukan di tengah-tengah pelatihan dimana peserta terlihat mulai bosan, lelah atau malah mengantuk saat mengikuti pelatihan.

Fakih, Topatimasang, Rahardjo dalam Pendidikan Populer (2001) menyatakan bahwa apapun bentuknya, ‘pemecah kebekuan’ yang baik adalah yang :

1. Pemecah kebekuan sedapat mungkin melibatkan semua peserta tanpa kecuali, jangan sampai ada yang hanya menjadi penonton saja, lebih baik lagi kalau gagasannya justru berasal dari peserta sendiri (hmm…..sesuatu yang sampai saat ini belum pernah saya lakukan).

2. Pemecah kebekuan sedapat mungkin melibatkan semua panca indra setiap orang. Oleh karena itu yang mengandung unsur-unsur adanya gerakan-gerakan tubuh atau suara lebih disarankan.

3. Pemecah kebekuan sedapat mungkin menciptakan keharusan berinteraksi antar semua orang. Oleh karena itu, disarankan bentuk-bentuk permainan yang mengandung unsur-unsur perlombaan atau persaingan.

4. Pemecah kebekuan sedapat mungkin mengandung unsur-unsur kejutan (surprise), misalnya sesuatu yang baru dikenal atau tidak disangka-sangka sebelumnya, bukan sesuatu yang sudah terlalu umum dan biasa atau sudah dikenal baik selama ini, tetapi jangan terlalu banyak mengandung idiom-idiom asing sehingga malah tidak difahami oleh sebagian besar peserta.

5. Pemecah kebekuan sedapat mungkin mengandung unsur-unsur kegembiraan (enjoyable) atau kelucuan yang menghilangkan rasa tegang atau bosan.

6. Sedapat mungkin ringkas dan padat (terbaik adalah 5-15 menit) dan tidak berbelit-belit cara melakukannya. Kalau waktu yang tersedia cukup lama, maka harus dilakukan dengan tempo tinggi (cepat) dan dengan bentuk kegiatan beragam (tidak hanya satu jenis saja sampai membosankan).

7. Pemecah kebekuan sedapat mungkin memang ada kaitannya degan pokok bahasan atau materi/topik yang sedang dibicarakan/dibahas pada waktu itu. Misalnya saja jika materi sesi saat itu adalah membahas masalah kepemimpinan yang demokratis, maka pemecah kebekuan yang perlu dikembangkan adalah yang membahas masalah kepemimpinan juga. Oleh karena itu, setiap pemecah kebekuan juga harus diproses dalam daur belajar sehingga dapat diambil pelajaran bersama.(na….ini yang sebenarnya paling susah dalam sebuah ice breaking….hingga seringkali satu ice breaking terpaksa dipakai diberbagai mata pelajaran….yang penting rame walau agak nyimpang-nyimpang dikit....).

Pengalaman berkesan saya tentang ice breaking adalah saat mengikuti diklat kewidyaiswaraan berjenjang tingkat pertama di Jakarta, dimana saat itu saya bertemu dengan Profesor tua yakni Pak Entang yang walau gelarnya begitu tinggi tapi beliau mampu menyajikan suatu materi dengan menarik tanpa membosankan alias penuh dengan ice breaker. Sejak saat itu saya mulai tertarik buat mencari cara menyegarkan suasan kelas tersebut. Beruntung saat ini buku-buku seperti itu, utamanya yang berbahasa Indonesia (he…he…he…soalnya kalo Bahasa lain mmales banget mocone…) sudah banyak dijual dipasaran. Antara lain melalui Adi Sunarno lewat 10 kumpulan buku games, yaitu permainan atraktif dan edukatif untuk pelatihan manajemen : Ice Breaker (A-Z), Perception Games, Leadership Games, Creativity Games, Motivation Games, Team Bulding Games, serta Decision making and Problem Solving Games, serta Learning Process Games (terus terang hanya beberapa yang sempat saya beli….karena keterbatasan kanthong juga….) Atau beberapa yang saya miliki misalnya 100 Permainan Penyegar Pertemuan terbitan Kanisius, 100 permainan kreatif dari Andi Yogya serta 100 game kreatif terbitan Gradien Mediatama. Atau yang bentuk visual milik Budiman Susetyo. Sedangkan yang bentuknya lelucon, diantaranya bisa dilihat dalam http://ketawa.com/.

Segini dulu tulisan saya….inginnya sih tulisan ini sekaligus jadi tulisan awal saya tentang katagori baru dari blog ini…Ya….saya pengen sharing tentang game-game kreatif yang bisa dipakai buat menyegarkan suasana kelas. Sebagian besar sih tentu saja bukan karangan saya…..akan tetapi game-game tersebut saya ambil dari yang pernah saya mainkan sehingga saya bisa menuliskan kesan dari masing-masing game tersebut….baik dari cara memainkannya, reaksi peserta, refleksi dibalik game, kapan sebaiknya dimainkan, trus bagaimana bikin agar seru dimainkan…..

]]> http://myhusbandisfunnierthanyours.wordpress.com/?p=21 Mon, 30 Jun 2008 04:01:56 +0000 kels http://myhusbandisfunnierthanyours.wordpress.com/?p=21 Me: Why do my boobs have to come up in every conversation?

A: Because they are such a good ice breaker!

Look, I'm evaluating the data.   I'll get back with you later on.  Friday during the day should be fine.  So, I'll get back with you.  I've got to go and visit a friend in the hospital and when I get back, then I'll deal with it.  That should give you a clue as to my concern at this point.  For me, this situation is more of an academic interest than fear for the safety of my kitty cats and Snow White. But, I'll bring you up to date soon.

In the meantime...amuse yourself.  This is a post from another blogger named Anthony Watts. who loves going after the Global Warming Debate....it's about an Ice-Breaker-turned-Arctic Tour Boat that got stuck in the ice while showing a tour group that the ice sheet is disappearing.  I've never met this Watts fellow but it's a pretty good story.

Ice Breaker Stuck In Ice

Therefore, after a long and thorough conversation with a dear friend – let’s call him Un-Bob – we decided that there needs to be a list of date ice-breakers to break these vicious circles. A little background on Un-Bob: we actually have had a pseudo-date together which was a lot of fun. I found it hard to believe that Un-Bob could have anything but awesome dates. However, he assured me that he definitely has had interview dates. Perhaps it was because Un-Bob and I were friends for a while before hand, perhaps it was because it was an unplanned date, or perhaps our awesomenesses combined and our date was awesome squared. So in the spirit of the girl scouts, always be prepared for the monotonous by having a back-up list of things to do. This is a small list of things that has spiced up dates for me in the past:

1. Dare each other to do cartwheels in the middle of Park Ave.

2. Pull out your camera, ask the waiter to take a few pictures and pose ridiculously for a few of them.

3. Go to a strange place: a wax museum, piercing pagoda, a strip club, a hardware store, or the Jersey shore

4. Play a harmless prank on the other person.

5. Send them a text message when they’re not looking - make it funny

6. Wear a disguise

7. Go salsa dancing

8. Get in a tickle fight

9. Go see a really really bad movie – preferably with alien/zombies - and make fun of it the whole time

10. Brunch/breakfast dates are never EVER boring

11. PALM READING!!!

I’m out.

6. What honest mistake have you committed that turned out  to be favorable to you?

There was this incident back when I was in Grade 6. One of my teachers asked me to give her payment (50 pesos) to our cafeteria. I do admit that I was really wrong for not giving the payment to the right person. And because of that, my teacher thought that I stole her money. I know that I was wrong for giving the money to the wrong person, but I think it is also wrong for my teacher to think that I stole her money. I am telling you that up to this moment, I will stand by with what I told her... that I did not steal her money. That is the truth. And I am happy that my my friends believe in me, that's why I think that mistake had been favorable to me.

7. Comment on this: "It is better to give than to receive."

Oh well, this is a very famous saying. But all I can say is it is good that we should be thankful for all the blessings we receive. And one way to show it is to give back... share...

8. What is your attitude toward adversity and temptation?

Hmmm.. Adversity means... a state of misfortune or affliction; "debt-ridden farmers struggling with adversity"; "a life of hardship"; a stroke of ill fortune; a calamitous event; "a period marked by adversities. Well, of course, I would feel really depressed.

Temptation... I actually give in easily to temptations. Haha. But of course, we have our conscience to tell us if what we are doing is right or wrong. That's why I am thankful to my conscience because my conscience is really strong. Hehe.

9. What good traits do your father and mother have which you see in your personality?

Oh... Just like I said previously, I hate answering questions asking about your own good traits. Haha. But all I can say is, I am really lucky for having the parents I have.

10. What is your favorite room in the house?

Of course, my room. Haha.

Anyway, here is how it will go here in Rowjielogy. I'll be picking five cards and try to answer the questions on it, and I hope you will also share your answers. And the card I picked up for today is...

1. What has been the greatest act of kindness you have shown to another?

Well, this is a hard question for me and I don't want to answer questions like this. But whatever it is, I know that anybody will feel good whenever she or he shows acts of kindness to others.

2. Tell us about your crushes.

What!?! Haha. Well, I really had lot crushes back in high school. Some say that to have a crush on someone is just admiring him or her. So do you think, having a crush with the same gender is wrong? Haha.

3. Comment on this: "If you cannot find a way out, look up!"

Well, I am thinking of two possible answers here. First, if you have a problem and you cannot solve it with the solution in your mind, then try another one.

Second, don't forget to pray! Trust the Lord! :)

4. What changes would you like to see in your life?

I really want to avoid being shy so I can mingle with people. (And I want to spend my money wisely!)

5. Ooops! The group may ask you now their questions,

What?!? Haha. I will just let you ask me anything you want and I'll be answering it on the next Ice Breaker!

Anyway, I decided to put this department here so that I can share my points of view to others, as well as let others share theirs to me. I learned how to respect others' opinions. And I hope others will also learn to do the same. :)

Ep.1: Freedom of Expression Through Blogs - May 9, 2007
Ep.2: Quality of Education in the Philippines - May 29, 2007
Ep.3: Implementing Dress Codes Inside The Church - June 28, 2007
Ep.4: How Was The Philippines In The Previous Year - July 23, 2007
Ep.5: Trust - August 11, 2007
Ep.6: Love At First Sight - September 3, 2007
Ep.7: Glorietta Blast - October 22, 2007
Ep.8: Press Freedom Censorship - November 9, 2007
Ep.9: Sexperience - November 22, 2007
Ep.10: Same Sex Love - December 3, 2007
Ep.11: The True Meaning of Christmas - December 14, 2007
Ep.12: A Chance To Change - January 11, 2008
Ep.13: People Power, Etc. - March 3, 2008
Ep.14: In The Observance of Holy Week - March 19, 2008

Well, I hope for more Points of Views blog entries in the near future. And to start the second year of Points of View, we will be answering questions from the Ice Breaker collection. This will start next week. :)

I've done this before back when I was still in Blogger/Blogspot. Ice Breaker is actually a game where the players will pick one card from a set of cards. Each card has a question for the player to answer. Actually, these are (somehow) serious questions.

"Make new friends! Know casual acquaintances better! Discover secrets from old friends like you can never before! Understand close friends even more deeply. How else but through Ice Breaker! The fun way to enjoy each other's company while sharing of ourselves openly. Just be yourself and be a friend."

But for this blog, I'll be picking a card. And then I'll post my answer to the questions as a blog entry. And hopefully, people will share their answers too!

Kokology: The Game of Self Discovery (by Tadahiko Nagao and Isamu Saito)

Kokology is a series of psychological games designed to reveal your hidden attitudes about sex, family, love, work, and more; a popular term for the interpretation of the hidden meanings of human behavior and situational responses.

 Lease An Icebreaker

At first the idea involved a number of people who all share the same sense of adventure getting together and purchasing an ice breaker for our voyage. I then did some research and discovered the price of an ice breaker, although it wasn't so much the price but the ratio of people it could accommodate compared to the number of participating adventurers. One i checked could berth 52 people and cost just under a million so split between 52 the cost would be ridiculous. I see no problem getting people involved in the project, but if i got a 1000 people at a grand each that would cover the cost of purchase. The problem is how long some people would have to wait for their turn on the ship. However i then noticed that the ship may be for lease and that will cut costs dramatically.

 So i source a group of individuals who would all like to participate in a life changing voyage around one of the polar caps on a ship we have all chipped in to lease. Obviously the full financial details have to be worked out including the leasing costs and fuel costs etc but just the thought of this is amazing. It may even be possible to crew the ship from people within the project. Then theres the publicity this would attract and the frenzy it would cause. I really believe if i could come up with a realistic figure i would have people queueing up for this adventure. Imagine writing your blog whilst on a ship crashing through ice around one of the polar caps. A ship that you helped lease and that you have a say in what happens and where it goes, its just mind blowing.

 I really will have to have a look into this over the next few days. It may turn out to not be at all viable but if it can be done its a once in a lifetime opportunity. Remember anythings possible and even if its not you gain knowledge whilst trying so its a winner anyway.

It's Songkran in Thailand this week!

We took the family down to the moat around the old city in Chiang Mai to see the festival today. It's got to be the world's largest water fight! People roam the streets around the moat in their songtaews, pickup trucks and tuk-tuks, with giant barrels of water loaded in the back. Inside the barrels are not only water but also giant blocks of ice or frequently small children, who scoop buckets full of water and hand them to their older accomplices. Any unprotected passer-by is fair game, and we learned that you can even receive a bucketful through an open car window if you're not careful.

Even on the side streets, locals and shop owners are waiting with water guns, hoses and buckets outside the many shops that line either side of the road. There really isn't a safe distance at which to pass. They are happy to chase after you to give you a good dousing. One man picked up my daughter and carried her to a bucket where three people set about washing her hair - complete with shampoo! Everyone expects to get wet, and nothing is sacred - not even expensive digital cameras that we were foolish enough to remove from their ziplocked protection pouches.

It's incredible fun - the "best holiday ever!" according to my youngest - but what I really enjoyed
was the ice-breaking interaction between Thais and farangs. It didn't matter that we spoke different languages. It didn't matter that we look different or come from different cultures. Water, ironically, built the bridge between us. It created a whole new language that we could share, because everyone understands the squeal of surprise that occurs when ice water makes contact.

Something special happened today - a blending of cultures, a setting-aside of differences. We found common ground in a water fight and love for our neighbor in a shared smile and a laugh. Could it really be that simple? Could cultures come together just by focusing on similarities rather than differences? May God bless this shared experience and open windows of opportunity for a little Living Water.

Cross Town Connection –

How you do it: Have your group gather in a circle. Start by explaining that there are many different ways to meet new people. Tell your group that they will learn five ways to meet new people. They will learn a new way to meet, find one person in the circle that they will share that greeting with, practice it and return to their spot in the circle. You can use any greeting, here are five that work well:
1) Handshake – Very simple, participants interlock hands, and shake them.
2) High Five – Participants extend a hand up in the air, and slap their open palm against their partners.
3) Ankle Shake – Participant walk toward each other and start the same way you would start a “High Five,” the difference is that you do not slap hands, you miss, reach down to that person’s ankle and shake that.
4) Lumberjack – One person will put out their fist in a thumbs up manner, the next person will make a fist around that person’s thumb and extend their own thumb into the air. The first person will repeat this process and then the second person. This will interlock all four hands, at which point, participants will make a “sawing” motion back and forth.
5) Happy Salmon – Participants start out with a regular handshake motion. They will move their hand further up the arm to the forearm of their partner then slap (gently) their partner’s forearm.

Here is where the game gets fun. After each person has one partner for each type of greeting, the facilitator will call out the names of the handshakes at random. Each person must find their partner and exchange that greeting before the facilitator calls out the next greeting. This usually leads to mass chaos, a lot of laughing and people doing the Happy Salmon all day long.

Magsaya!

May dahilan kung bakit ako nandito. Manatili at magbasa ng maigi, ipupusta ko pa ang natatangi kong piraso ng tootie fruiti. Meron 'yan. Anes.

Napagdesisyunan ko na na gamitin ang aking sariling wika sa pagsusulat at sa pag wili sa aking sarili. Hindi ako nagihintay at nangangailangan, indi rin maghihintay at... ah yah... ng co mens. Este, comments. Hanggang sa maaalala ko pa ang aking account at ang password, ang anaknitetangpulah ay mananatili sa world, sa world wide web.

Malapit na ang bakasyon. Hindi magtatagal ay enrollment na naman din, kumpleto na ba at nakapasa na ang mga requirements ko? Aba'y oo...Maliban sa linggo-linggong homily na kinakailnagan pang isulat at ipasa. Kung hindi nanaman tatanggapin ang isa sa mga proyekto ko, nakakalungkot isipin at sabihin sa buong mundo na maaaring hindi nako makakapagenroll para sa susunod kong baitang, goodbye kolehiyo.

Naging mabuting mamamayan naman ako. Hindi ako nagbabayad ng tax dahil hindi panaman ako kinakailangang magbayad. Pero mabuti akong mag aaral, lima hanggat sampung minuto bago mag simula ang exams ay nagbabasa naman ako. Mabuti akong kristiyano, nagfafacilitate ako, kasama ang iba ko pang ehr.. mga kasama na magturo buong araw tungkol sa personhood, human sexuality at boy girl relationship, kasama na rin dyan ang paghihirit sa pagbabasa ko sa kapwa kong mag-aaral galing sa ibat-ibang paaralan ng mga verse sa Biblya.

Mainit. Nakakapanibago. Nakaainit ng ulo. Nakakasakal. Nakakapagod. Pero nandoon parin kami. Tatlo at dalawandaang mga estudyante ang kailangang turuan. Kinakailangang gamitin ang paraang "Learn for Fun" technique. Eh kung kami nga ay hindi halos nakaranas nun, ano paba gagawin namin? Nakatatanda siguro ako sa iba doon, pero may dalawampu't-isang taong gulang nanga doon; Ang natatanging nakapagligtas ng araw ay ang ice breakers. Sa situasyong 'yon, iisa lang ang ice breaker ko, salamat sa kooperasyon ng mga estudyante at ang pag teteks at walang pagkibo ng dalawa kong kasamahang naguupo-upuan lang samantalang pinapagpawisan na ako sa panik sa pagharap ng parang mga patay na tao, naging matagumpay ang ice breaker. Ang isa sa aming tatlo ay nakapag-isip na tawagin ang kasama namin sa kabila. Hindi. Inutusan ko pa. Sumunod naman. May tumulong na kaibigan na nagtuturo sa kabilang kwarto at tumpak! Naaliw at nabuhay muli ang 60 katao, 63, kung kasama kami.

Masayang malaman at maramdam ang pagkakontento sa tagumpay ng araw. Nakakapagod at draining ang experience pero worth it naman. Oo nga, dahan dahang nauubusan nanaman ako ng tagaleg.

Kakahiya ano? O siya, sarili ko! Dito nanaman muna. Hanggang sa muli kong post ng wrong grammar nanamang pag pipilit na mag Filipino!!!

-anaknitetangpulah a.k.a. Naes-